As we grow older, we become more matured, our mindset changes,
and guess what, our perception for ‘love’ has changed as well.
If you guys can still remember some of the terms we actually used to describe love/relationship, you will find that it can be quite amusing.
When we were 5 years old, attending nursery/kindergarten, you may have this very close buddy of an opposite sex. You may find him/her cute and you guys always talk and play together, and you announced to other childhood mates that he/she is your future husband/wife, and that you two are going to marry each other in the future. Silly as it may seem, but it’s so cute when 2 little kids actually make such ‘pact’ (of course we all know that the pact is fake)
When we were 12 years old, and we may have a crush on a female/male classmate whom you find not bad looking, and can also get along with pretty well. Most of the people(kids?) then used the term ‘puppy love’ to describe this type of feeling. (omg, haven’t heard of this term for a long long time) At that time, the feeling/relationship between two is very pure and simple. You may express your liking towards each other, but there’s nothing more than that.
When we were 16 years old, we always have a crush on someone who seems perfect in our eyes. He/she can be the best looking or the smartest in the school, or Mr/Ms popular or very talented. But of course, these type of people actually have a lot of admirers, and we most probably wouldn’t stand any chance. So we usually stead (term used in teenage life to describe ‘in a relationship’) with someone who is one-tier below but good enough. And usually, when we first enter a relationship, we will think that the relationship will last and we really like each other a lot (I use the word ‘like’ instead as most of us probably wouldn’t understand the meaning of love). And of course, when it leads to a bad outcome, we would have known that it’s not true.
When we were 20 years old, another new status was more popular in demand or in use, ‘it’s complicated’. People use this status when they are unsure whether they are single or attached with someone else. Why is it so? Firstly, they take relationship too lightly that they actually initiate breakup and reconciliation so frequently. Secondly, they don’t want to commit to a relationship. Thirdly, they don’t know if they are actually committing to the ‘right’ person. They then resort to becoming ‘flings’, ‘friends with benefit’, or having this so-called no-status relationship. That’s mainly because people actually have no faith or confidence in maintaining a long-lasting relationship.
And as we grow older, we realise that we are just looking for a soulmate, someone who is more suitable for us, someone whom we can depend on for the rest of our lives.
Our definition for love changes over the years, along with our mindset and perception of a relationship..
but there’s one thing that doesn’t change—
no matter how much fear or lack of confidence we have in rs.
even though we once got hurt in rs.
even though we couldn’t commit when we are in rs.
——in the end, we still long for love….
Every Girl`s Dream:
- Get kissed in the rain.
- Have that one hot kiss where your pressed against the wall.
- Have a guy who thinks she`s the world.
- Have a guy who holds on as long as possible when giving hugs.
- A guy who whispers he loves her in her ears.
- Have that moment where you just gaze into each others eyes.
- When you cry, he kisses your tears away.
- When you`re not with your guy he`s all that you can think about.
- Wearing his jacket and every time you breath in, his scent surrounds you.
- A guy who will watch any movie with her, no matter how teary eyed she may get.
- A guy who squeezes her hand.
- A guy who says he loves her and means it.
- A guy who will play her favorite song outside her window.
- A guy who is loyal.
- A guy who will sing to her no matter how bad he is at it.
- A guy who will kiss her on the forehead.
- A guy who will call her beautiful or adorable. Not hot, fine, or sexy.
- A guy who will never judge her for how she looks.
- A guy who says cheezy stuff to her just to make her smile.
- A guy who`s the same when he is with her and when with friends.
- A guy who tells her everything honestly.
- A guy who`s good with her family and introduces her to his family.
- A guy who will always let her win.
- A guy who stands up for her no matter who it is against.
- A guy who calls her at night just to say ‘hi’ and see how her day has been.
- A guy who tells her that her smile makes his day and makes everything better.
- A guy who will sit on the phone with her when she`s sad, even if she`s quiet.
- A guy who she can hangout and have fun with.
- A guy who will just randomly call her for no reason at all, just because he misses her.
- A guy who will hold her hand through the roughest parts of life.
- A guy who would love her forever no matter the circumstance.
- A guy who wouldn`t mind her wanting to get all dressed up and do herr make up for him. Even if he says he likes her better without make up.
- A guy who runs his fingers through her hair, like he’s washing her worries and troubles away.
- A guy whom she can be herrself with and he will never give a care and would still tell her that she`s amazing to him.
(via georginapbx)
